What do you think of this local news story about how Facebook ruins relationships? Does new media create new problems -- or opportunities for them -- or is this just scapegoating for old problems? Would you say anything online that you wouldn't say in person?
Do you know people who have gotten into difficulties because of the ease of anonymous interaction on the web?
Personally I feel that everyone is in charge of their own actions. Facebook did not break couples up, the individuals do. As with the cheating issue, The spouse is probably going to cheat no matter what, facebook may just make it easier. I think that this news article is ridiculous, and people are being ridiculous. There is always something or someone to blame for someones own faults.
ReplyDeleteI don't think there's any new phenomena there, it just further facilitates the same kinds of things.
ReplyDeleteI haven't had any relationships, but I've had both positive and negative experiences with people online, such as getting my wonderful cat, some new friends and getting some things published on one hand, and getting plagiarized, libeled and death-threatened on the other.
I would say this is actually just a scapegoat for an already existing problem. I think that the news story is a little over the top. Yes, it may be true that Facebook has played a role in the dissolve of marriages. However, Facebook itself was not the cause. If the person was going to be unfaithful in the relationship, it was bound to happen eventually. Facebook just became an easy channel for this. As we've all been saying, you have to watch what you're doing on there. Obviously chatting about meeting with old flames from high school is going to get you in trouble with your spouse.
ReplyDeleteI don't think facebook ruins a relationship. I think that if the relationship is rocky to begin with facebook can be another problem. It gives unfaithful people more opportunity to cheat. As Derek said, if they are bound to cheat, they will. Facebook isn't the reason for the failure of relationships.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Tiffany about the idea where we always need some one else to blame. We live in a world where when something goes wrong, there is always someone else pointing a finger. That is why I think that whole news story is ridiculous as well. How can you blame Facebook for the rapid divorce increase in our country? If you are going to cheat, you are going to cheat. If you are dumb enough to post it on Facebook it is your own fault no one else's. People need to learn how to keep their personal life personal. Just because every one you know is on Facebook doesn't mean that everyone you know needs a play-by-play on your life. Facebook isn't the reason for peoples distraught relationships, people who can't keep their business to themselves are. So stop blaming Facebook for everything America and start taking responsibility for your own actions.
ReplyDeleteI do think facebook is a major part of a lot of relationship problems but all new technology is. People have become too dependent and obsessed with technology that it gets them into a lot of trouble. There is no filter and people become too comfortable with sites like facebook where they think they can hide affairs and such. It is our nation that has gotten out of control with new technology and people don't know how to control themselves because they are never taught properly how to use it. Just think about how in school you are taught to act properly in public but there are no classes or lessons you can really learn in schools for using different technology or the internet. Regardless, people do need to know how to take responsiblity for themselves but we do need to inform people especially younger people on how to properly use sites, especially facebook. I know relationships that have been ruined from facebook. It lets you communicate with almost anyone, so people see this as an escape from real life.
ReplyDeleteI think people who have had affairs, even ten years back from today, were able to be caught much easier because of less technology and websites. It wasn't as common to be on the internet all day and talk to anyone from anywhere and I feel this is why connecting with people in this day and age is so difficult. There are so many distractions and ways to have multiple relationships without anyone really finding out. It is upseting that people use new technology and media for selfish ad irresponsible reasons.
I feel that facebook can push a relationship that is on the rocks over the rocks. I feel that people who want to find something wrong can now use facebook to find that something wrong.I usually sensor myself more on the internet. Im usually very blunt in life and tell people what I think. I personally know people who have experienced some of the relationship problems because of facebook but I mean alot of it is speculation. Using facebook saying it is cause relationships to end is like when people read there significant others text messages and get angry even though they have no clue the context of the messages.I think if you want out of a relationship you will find it.
ReplyDeleteI think that the media doesn’t create new problems; I think that the people still create the problems however; the new media sites help make those problems easier to obtain. I think that people choose to hind behind the Internet at a safe guard instead of approaching the person face to face. The Internet allows people to say whatever they please to whomever they’d like to say it to because behind your computer screen you are invincible but as soon as you approach the person face to face they are scared to say anything to your face. I feel like the Internet allows people to say things that they don’t really mean to say just to be mean or make rude comments that are unnecessary to make. I know people who have been in serious relationships and have contacted there ex boyfriends or girlfriends and have made plans to hang out with them and hookup. When dating someone the girl or boy may religiously check their significant others Facebook page checking for any comments from other guys or girls because they get jealous that other people are commenting on their significant others photos, videos, wall, etc. I think that people choose to cheat and these media sites allow for them to do so, it gives than easy way to escape and go about their daily lives with an occasional side hook-up. I don’t think that social media sites can be completely blamed for ruining marriages as much as the people in those relationships can. I feel as though it just helps those who want to cheat on their significant others greatly.
ReplyDeleteFacebook relationships is really not too much of a huge deal in my opinion. The only thing that bothers me about them is when little middle schoolers say they are married to some guy. No you're not. You are 12, grow up. However, they can get you into trouble when you are young. I have heard of someone who broke up with their girlfriend by changing their relationship status from in a relationship to single without even telling the girl. Wow. Immature? Yeah I think so. Anyways, if most people know you, then they know who you are dating. If you want people to know that you are taken, then why not post it. I personally will not post something on facebook badly about someone else because chances are through the grapevine, someone will hear about it and then it will get cause a huge issue. Facebook can cause problems, but only if you make them a problem. Share information with your friends that you want others to see. It's fun, it doesn't have to be about drama. :)
ReplyDeleteFacebook does not break up couples; the individuals in the relationship are to blame for the break up. Everyone is responsible for their own actions. Facebook is simply another tool for people to do that. If someone wants to contact another person through facebook and has the intention of cheating or is already currently cheating on their significant other, then that is on them, not Facebook. I do believe Facebook can cause unnecessary drama in relationships, however. Sometimes when a guy writes on a girl's wall it looks like there is something going on, so the boyfriend gets mad. There really is nothing going on but because the message is there and out in the open the boyfriend/girlfriend gets upset. I think that if the message is there and for everyone to see, then there is really nothing going on, most likely. I think people just get jealous and try to make a statement or comment something that it isn't. Like others have said, Facebook is just another opportunity for those to cheat.
ReplyDeleteI think that people ruin relationships, not some new technology. If a person cannot control him or herself, then there is no one to blame besides him or herself. It's ridiculous to blame Facebook. Personally, I believe that blaming Facebook is a way for people to find someone else to blame. People have cheated since the dawn of relationships and they'll keep finding new and exciting ways to do so. Jealous men and women have always spied on their spouses and have always found things to doubt each other with. Facebook is just another venue for both a cheater and a jealous spouse to use.
ReplyDeleteThat being said, I do believe it makes such actions easier and more accessible. Snooping on the computer to find incriminating evidence is easier and cheaper than many of the previous options. Meeting people to cheat with is equally easy. This is not an excuse, because I believe everyone should have some self control. Overly jealous spouses can get upset over little messages that end up being innocent and cheating spouses can meet people to cheat with with ease. Facebook isn't a culprit though, there are websites dedicated to secret cheating, there are dating websites and fetish chatrooms. All of these sites are geered to meet to new people for relationships or sex. Facebook is meant for people to meet, chat, play games and network, if people choose to use it as a dating ground, that is their choice. Facebook is not a place where blame should be rightfully assigned.
I don't think that facebook has the power to ruin a relationship, but the people involved do. Facebook and other social media sites are just offer a new way for people to form connections with others. These can be be harmless connections, or something worse. Really blame for cheating can only be placed on the person doing the cheating. We do not blame bars for cheaters, we should not blame facebook.
ReplyDeleteI definitely think facebook and social networking creates problems. I dont' think it has that affect of ruining a relationship, but it can create a problem for a relationship. You cant have too much control on what people write on your wall without actually getting rid of your wall. But I honestly think when people break up because of something that happened on facebook, it's just rediculous because it's not even a real issue. And that goes for any of social network. Email on the other hand, I think could ruin a relationship by if one of the two people in the relationship are obviously talking to other people of the opposite sex. Other than that, anything that happens on the web is just annoying.
ReplyDeleteFacebook cannot ruin a relationship. The problems within the relationship must already exists. Facebook is simply a means of communication in which the problem increases. Such as a man cheating on his wife. He's still cheating if he isn't using facebook, that's just how the wife found out about it. Either way, there must have been issues within the relationship to begin with.
ReplyDeleteFacebook can complicate things in a relationship. I've seen it time and time again, where one party says something or posts a picture of something, and the other party finds out. People talk, and Facebook is made for talking. It doesn't surprise me if Facebook has ruined relationships with the amount of drama is can cause. I don't think it's the main "cause" of the failure in the relationship, but it can definitely add some problems.
ReplyDeleteI believe that these chat sites do ruin relationships. I for one was a victim, my wife started on one named Mocospace.com & it got us arguing. Now day ny day we have to work on oir trust values which is hard. My wife gave this individual her cell number & everything went to hell. Please don't trust them the individuals on these chat sites don't have a life so they have to go ruin someone elses life.
ReplyDeleteFacebook does not ruin relationships? Time and time gain i have seen that written here yet then there comes a 'but it can make it easier'... therefore the general consensus is that facebook can cause problems... The internet in general has a lot to answer for, fetish sites etc, the 'anonymous' profiles and the ability to form 'emotional relationships' with strangers by constant emailing and photo swapping, and the worst part is that 9 times out of 10 most people are lying through their teeth online... My partner chatted to a guy online for 6 years, as well as half a dozen others, then they had 5 days of 'romance' and our relationship of 20 years was over... then it turned out the guy was a complete internet fraud, my partner lied also and i all came out i existed, needless to say, there were no winners... and all for a fantasy... Once your partner starts spending more time online than with you, it's time to throw in the towel, too many people take what they have these days for granted and it's a shame some are too blind to open their eyes to what is really important in life... REALITY.
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